- Worry is an aspect of parenting, but it shouldn't define parenting
- Media saturation characterizes our time, but it need not floor our children's childhoods
- Children feed off of their parents' emotions
- The more you say, the less you are listening (verbal clutter)
- One way to 'talk less' is not to involve children in adult topics of conversation and concerns
- Too much information does not 'prepare' a child for a complicated world; it paralyzes them. Children need to know they have a place in a good world and a future of promise
True, kind, necessary
Our words have tremendous power to inspire or wound. Use them wisely. The way we talk to our children and what we say around them helps shape how they see the world and themselves.
Before you say something, ask yourself these three questions:
Is it true? Gossip and hearsay will fail the first filter.
Is it kind? Test of compassion. Some things that are true do not need to be said, if doing so would be hurtful. Bullying.
Is it necessary? Think of this as the verbal 'clutter' filter. Is this more important than silence?
what kind of parent am i?
Extreme parenting styles
How do I see myself and my co-parent? Are there changes I'd like to make in the way I parent?
our relationship with media
"The way we engage with social media is like fire— you can use it to keep yourself warm and nourished, or you can burn down the barn." —Brene Brown
Screens and technology includes anything that makes noise and has an OFF switch: Tv's, computers, laptops, iPads, cellphones, Wii, stereo, radios, CD players, video games.
1. Turn airplane mode on to limit exposure to EMF.
2. You can also set wireless router on a timer.
1. What connects you and your family?
2. What separates and disconnects you as a family?
- IDENTIFY dissastifaction
- IMAGINE things better
- DESIGN a small doable chnage
- CELEBRATE all plans, agreements and change however small
- Feeling calmer, safer and less anxious as a parent
- Maintaining your emotional well-being as a goal and taking steps to reduce your exposure to media that profit from sensationalism and fear
- Building a 'base camp' of security, by simplifying now, that will serve your children into adulthood
- What is said at home becoming more kind, true and necessary
- Turning down the insistent noise of popular culture, competition and consumerism at least a few notches in order for you to tune in to your value— what truly defines your family
The Village Effect: How Face to Face Contact Can Make Us Healthier and Happier by Susan Pinker
Glow Kids: How Screen Addiction is Hijacking Our Kids and How To Break the Trance by Nicholas Kardaras
Filtering with Kim John Payne Audio