Week 5: Scheduling


Quite simply

  • Activity without downtime is ultimately unsustainable

  • Boredom is often the precursor to creativity.

  • More than a simple pleasure, anticipation is identity building

  • A child's love of an activity will not protect him/her from pursuing it too much and too soon



an ordinary moment can be quite magical



roadblocks to slowing down

  1. Guilt

  2. Societal pressures

  3. Race against naptime

  4. Holding onto pre-parent life

  5. Homework

  6. Desire to give kids opportunities

  7. Other people not understanding


childhood golden moment 

Recall a time when you or your child(ren) were in unscheduled time. 




timeline of our schedules

  • Look at your schedules and find a couple of places for change. No criticizing or judgment here, simply notice on a daily basis and weekly, where there is calm and activity. Do you need more or less of one thing?


change process

  1. IDENTIFY dissastifaction

  2. IMAGINE things better

  3. DESIGN a small doable chnage

  4. CELEBRATE all plans, agreements and change however small


imagine your child's days and weeks...

  • What your child could do with the occasional gift of boredom

  • Consciously balancing some of the crazier days with calmer ones

  • Appreciating that genuine interests and abilities take time to form and those not pushed or hurried are more likely to become life-long pleasures

  • What a lifelong gift you give by gently insisting on and modelling, the importance of down-time and balance in daily life




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Audio from Kim John Payne on Schedules