Week 5: Scheduling
- Activity without downtime is ultimately unsustainable
- Boredom is often the precursor to creativity.
- More than a simple pleasure, anticipation is identity building
- A child's love of an activity will not protect him/her from pursuing it too much and too soon
an ordinary moment can be quite magical
roadblocks to slowing down
- Societal pressures
- Race against naptime
- Holding onto pre-parent life
- Desire to give kids opportunities
- Other people not understanding
childhood golden moment
Recall a time when you or your child(ren) were in unscheduled time.
timeline of our schedules
- Look at your schedules and find a couple of places for change. No criticizing or judgment here, simply notice on a daily basis and weekly, where there is calm and activity. Do you need more or less of one thing?
- IDENTIFY dissastifaction
- IMAGINE things better
- DESIGN a small doable chnage
- CELEBRATE all plans, agreements and change however small
imagine your child's days and weeks...
- What your child could do with the occasional gift of boredom
- Consciously balancing some of the crazier days with calmer ones
- Appreciating that genuine interests and abilities take time to form and those not pushed or hurried are more likely to become life-long pleasures
- What a lifelong gift you give by gently insisting on and modelling, the importance of down-time and balance in daily life
Audio from Kim John Payne on Schedules